ANGIE MACKLIN

Angie Macklin

Certified Transactional Analyst. Cert. Couns. UKCP Registered Psychotherapist. Member United Kingdom Association for Transactional Analysis. Referrals Manager for The Worsley Centre.

What good does talking do?

I’ve heard this question asked on many occasions and I think the only way I can answer it is from my own experience.

I used to hold my thoughts and feelings to myself, allowing my thoughts to go around in my head and then finding it hard to make decisions. I thought that if I shared them then I might be criticised and judged. That no one would take any notice of me, that my opinions were not important. I reached a place in my life when I felt I really needed someone to understand me, make sense of what I was thinking and feeling.

I found a therapist who understood my thinking process and being given an explanation by her was such a relief. They explained that my thoughts, feelings and behaviour were patterns that I had created for myself as a child to keep myself safe. That I could change these patterns so that I could move forward and have a more fulfilling life. I wasn’t sure that I believed her at first and it took time before I began to see anything change. I didn’t always notice it at first, but after a while I would say to myself, “Oh I don’t do such and such any more”.

This journey wasn’t easy, in fact it was painful at times, but once I began to see that my life was changing, that I wasn’t repeating some of my old patterns, I began to realise that I could make any changes I wanted. It meant hard work but I was prepared for that and believe it or not I began to find my therapy exciting. What else would I discover about myself?

I learnt to include my body. Our body and mind are not two separate parts of us, they are very much connected and as I began to understand my bodily sensations I was able to make healthier informed decisions.

Throughout all my 15 years of therapy I have changed my career as well as other aspects of myself. I wanted to share some of this with you so that you too would know that it is possible to have a healthier and happier life.

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